You’ve probably noticed the level of sentimentality with my blogs and true to form, here’s another one written along those lines. My time at University is coming to an end, and it’s really led me (more than usual) to reflect upon the connections we make with people, and the effects which this can have.
You know, I’m just thinking about how wondrous the whole thing is; life, I mean. But life is only precious because of other people, and the connections which we make with them, in my opinion. I guess social media makes it possible for us to talk to anyone almost anywhere in the world, which may be a good place to get to know people but there’s nothing like the real-life experience. For me personally, University had given me first hand experience and evidence of the great people that are out there, each with their own story (I’ll come to that a bit later on).
Every time we meet someone new, for me it’s like a surge of potential; a possibility of a series of links, or ‘connections’. So, imagine you meet someone new and you become best friends with them, then they introduce you to their friends. In this case, links form between people. Great! However, there’s also a chance for links to form to opportunities and wonderful moments, just because of that person you’ve met. What I mean by this is, you know maybe they can encourage you to face your fear, to overcome an obstacle which has held you back for some time. Maybe you’re such good friends that they tell you something that’s been bothering them, they open up to you and you’re both better for it.
This is another major, really amazing thing. Trust. For me, the best feeling in the world is that people feel that they can depend on me, for anything I mean. The key to a connection like that is trust; if someone trusts you completely, then a perfect link, or connection can be made. In my opinion, that is the pinnacle, and what makes life amazing. What’s really fascinating for me, too is looking back on the history of how you met your friends. For example, one of my best friends is from China, and I was saying to her yesterday that it’s so great (and fortunate for me) that we came to the exact same University at the exact same time. In that sense, it’s a chance meeting but thanks to that initial luck and chance, we’ve been brought together and formed a lifetime bond. But it’s not just amazing when it happens to people from other countries; a lot of the friends I’ve made here are from various areas around England, and by chance I’ve come to the same University as them at the exact same time; wonderful connections have been made because of that. Just think if I wouldn’t have come to University..
Yeah, just think about that. What happens when you do nothing? Well, nothing. Nothing happens. I’m not saying that you’ll meet your new best friend every time you go outside the door but I’m saying to take the chance. You know, I’m afraid of a lot of things but I find that when I face that fear, more often that not the results are spectacular.
Because I love doing this, I’ll write-up a little scenario which hopefully helps illustrate my point:
A friend invites you to the cinema and maybe drinks afterwards, also mentioning that his/her friends will be coming along. Even though you’re tired, or you’ve had a bad day and feel a bit lethargic, you go along anyway. Two things can happen here:
a) You have a good time, and maybe even end up forming potential connections with a few new people, who knows maybe having one of the best nights you’ve ever had.
b) The night isn’t so good, you feel awkward and don’t talk to many of the unfamiliar faces.
In either of these scenarios however, you try. Then, you come home with the knowledge that you tried, whatever happens. My point is that things aren’t always gonna go well, but if you don’t try then all of these potential connections will just dissipate, as in option c:
c) you stay at home, and do nothing.
Maybe that’s a little unfair, because sometimes we all need some alone time. I’m just saying, in the majority of cases I would just go for it, because knowing that you tried can only benefit you psychologically, even if there isn’t a new friendship to show for it (and hey, at least you didn’t let the friend down who invited you, anyway)!
I promised I’d let you know what I meant by people’s ‘stories’, right? I first heard the term about 10 years ago, when I was playing a video game. The game revolved around the main character trying to get back to his own time, and so it was his ‘story’. So, a story is a person’s journey, and their personality and connections are encapsulated in that journey, in fact that’s what dictates it. For me, these stories are fascinating. Why is someone the way they are, what has influenced it? Where do they want their journey to lead, and why? And, how do I fit into that journey, if at all? When I meet someone new I always ask what their dreams are. (I say hello, first.) Sometimes, they don’t know or they don’t want to say but if they do answer truthfully, then it’s a real eye-opener into that person’s character. I could spend days on end talking about dreams if I had the right person to talk to. Once I know their dream and if we get along, how can I help them achieve it? You see this is what’s important, and potentially amazing. Can I one day be a trusted enough friend to be a part of that person’s story, and help them achieve their dreams and goals? That’s my goal, right there.
So what are you waiting for? There are a tonne of people out there that need you to fill in the pages of their story; you’ve just gotta try 🙂
“A single rose can be my garden. A single friend, my world.”