Connections

You’ve probably noticed the level of sentimentality with my blogs and true to form, here’s another one written along those lines. My time at University is coming to an end, and it’s really led me (more than usual) to reflect upon the connections we make with people, and the effects which this can have. 

You know, I’m just thinking about how wondrous the whole thing is; life, I mean. But life is only precious because of other people, and the connections which we make with them, in my opinion. I guess social media makes it possible for us to talk to anyone almost anywhere in the world, which may be a good place to get to know people but there’s nothing like the real-life experience. For me personally, University had given me first hand experience and evidence of the great people that are out there, each with their own story (I’ll come to that a bit later on).

Every time we meet someone new, for me it’s like a surge of potential; a possibility of a series of links, or ‘connections’. So, imagine you meet someone new and you become best friends with them, then they introduce you to their friends. In this case, links form between people. Great! However, there’s also a chance for links to form to opportunities and wonderful moments, just because of that person you’ve met. What I mean by this is, you know maybe they can encourage you to face your fear, to overcome an obstacle which has held you back for some time. Maybe you’re such good friends that they tell you something that’s been bothering them, they open up to you and you’re both better for it.

This is another major, really amazing thing. Trust. For me, the best feeling in the world is that people feel that they can depend on me, for anything I mean. The key to a connection like that is trust; if someone trusts you completely, then a perfect link, or connection can be made. In my opinion, that is the pinnacle, and what makes life amazing. What’s really fascinating for me, too is looking back on the history of how you met your friends. For example, one of my best friends is from China, and I was saying to her yesterday that it’s so great (and fortunate for me) that we came to the exact same University at the exact same time. In that sense, it’s a chance meeting but thanks to that initial luck and chance, we’ve been brought together and formed a lifetime bond. But it’s not just amazing when it happens to people from other countries; a lot of the friends I’ve made here are from various areas around England, and by chance I’ve come to the same University as them at the exact same time; wonderful connections have been made because of that. Just think if I wouldn’t have come to University..

Yeah, just think about that. What happens when you do nothing? Well, nothing. Nothing happens. I’m not saying that you’ll meet your new best friend every time you go outside the door but I’m saying to take the chance. You know, I’m afraid of a lot of things but I find that when I face that fear, more often that not the results are spectacular. 

Because I love doing this, I’ll write-up a little scenario which hopefully helps illustrate my point:

A friend invites you to the cinema and maybe drinks afterwards, also mentioning that his/her friends will be coming along. Even though you’re tired, or you’ve had a bad day and feel a bit lethargic, you go along anyway. Two things can happen here:

a) You have a good time, and maybe even end up forming potential connections with a few new people, who knows maybe having one of the best nights you’ve ever had.

b) The night isn’t so good, you feel awkward and don’t talk to many of the unfamiliar faces.

In either of these scenarios however, you try. Then, you come home with the knowledge that you tried, whatever happens. My point is that things aren’t always gonna go well, but if you don’t try then all of these potential connections will just dissipate, as in option c:

c) you stay at home, and do nothing.

Maybe that’s a little unfair, because sometimes we all need some alone time. I’m just saying, in the majority of cases I would just go for it, because knowing that you tried can only benefit you psychologically, even if there isn’t a new friendship to show for it (and hey, at least you didn’t let the friend down who invited you, anyway)!

I promised I’d let you know what I meant by people’s ‘stories’, right? I first heard the term about 10 years ago, when I was playing a video game. The game revolved around the main character trying to get back to his own time, and so it was his ‘story’. So, a story is a person’s journey, and their personality and connections are encapsulated in that journey, in fact that’s what dictates it. For me, these stories are fascinating. Why is someone the way they are, what has influenced it? Where do they want their journey to lead, and why? And, how do I fit into that journey, if at all? When I meet someone new I always ask what their dreams are. (I say hello, first.) Sometimes, they don’t know or they don’t want to say but if they do answer truthfully, then it’s a real eye-opener into that person’s character. I could spend days on end talking about dreams if I had the right person to talk to. Once I know their dream and if we get along, how can I help them achieve it? You see this is what’s important, and potentially amazing. Can I one day be a trusted enough friend to be a part of that person’s story, and help them achieve their dreams and goals? That’s my goal, right there.

So what are you waiting for? There are a tonne of people out there that need you to fill in the pages of their story; you’ve just gotta try 🙂

“A single rose can be my garden. A single friend, my world.”

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Future

When you think of the future, what comes to mind? Hopes, dreams, aspirations? Or is it fear? The future means different things to different people, and for me I guess it’s an amalgamation of all of those emotions.

I’ve probably said this before about my mind-set, but I see all possibilities, good and bad. It’s tough, believe me! But it’s also liberating, and hopeful. But yeah, that’s what I was getting at when I suggested that I have a mix of the emotions I just listed. I see a future where I achieve all that I want, and a future where I don’t achieve anything more than I have already. Please don’t take this as negative because that’s not my intention at all. Hear me out.

The one thing that is a constant in those parallel futures I see is effort. You see whatever happens, I will give it my absolute all. The future I dream of? I’m a writer, writing stories and plots that (hopefully) inspire others, and aside from that I’m doing something that helps people. All of my friends and family are safe, and they’re with me, in regular contact. I have my ‘team’, just like I always dreamed of 🙂

It’s a cool dream, right? And I’m sure that you each have your own, something that you’re always striving for. How far are you to achieving those dreams? I have 1 out of 3 of the things I’ve listed there, but in truth I haven’t been successful with the writing yet, and who knows how I’m gonna help a lot of people? I just do what I can.  But that’s just my point! I do what I can. Too often I see people stuck, and not trying to change their situations. I see and hear people moan about things that with just a bit of effort could be overridden .

This isn’t me trying to criticise people, this is me saying “Don’t Give Up!!!” You know, the way I see it, you only get one shot at life. I’m aware of the difficulties that can besiege people but whatever happens to you, you can always have a positive mind-set, a will to wake up each day and keep trying. I myself have been guilty of running away from my problems in the past and I understand how powerful fear can be. But for anyone who reads this, I just want you to know that you are great, and you can achieve wonderful things.

It’s wonderful when you can reflect at the end of the day and know that you tried. That’s it. Just try. I’m not saying ‘move a mountain each day’ I’m saying ‘gather to tools to eventually try and move the mountain’…if that makes sense. The truth is I don’t see myself as particularly gifted but I’ll work as hard as I can to make my dreams a reality. 

 

Part 2

I’m splitting this into two parts because I wanted to talk about something else regarding the future, and that’s the possibilities. I’m kind of reflecting back to those people who seem to think life can’t match up to their expectations. I’ll use an example of something really cool that I thought of earlier in the year, and was describing to my friend over the phone:

Coming to University and the subsequent experience of it has really broadened my horizons, opened up my mind to the possibility of meeting thousands of new, interesting people. I’ve made several new friends here, friends I intend to keep for life. Think about this though – I’ve only entered what is a tiny part of the scope of the world as a whole. What I mean to say is – think how many more amazing people are out there! To me, there’s nothing more interesting than another person, and their story. Why they are the way they are. Even more amazing are the connections which form between people. I have this dream that I’d go into a bar and get talking to a stranger all night; we’d exchange stories and it’d just be fascinating. Maybe that’s a tale for another time. My point is that there are billions of people throughout the world just waiting to meet us! 

Life – the ultimate adventure! A future littered with possibility. 

When I told my friend this story, he replied:

“Yeah..I think I see what you mean..”

Haha, I think I need to work on this whole ‘inspirational speaker’ thing, right? But you know what, that’s my dream and I’ll give it my all. You should, too. You can do it!

Over and out.

Sean

 

 

Heroes

I was speaking to my friend recently about what inspired us the most in our entire lives, and for me the answer has been clear; at least for a while. I guess it may sound kind of corny, but it came from a cartoon.

I was 10 years old, back in the year 2000 when I was watching Digimon, and an episode towards the end of the series. I’ll set the scene a bit. Basically, the 8 children were just about to face off against the ‘Big Bad’, Apocolamon, the most evil Digimon and their final test. They prepare to fight but Apocolamon prevents this and even worse, sends them all away into pieces of digital information. Here’s where the magic happens.

Right now, at this moment, our heroes are down in the dumps; in the depths of despair. Eventually though, they think back onto the good times throughout their journey thus far, and come to remember how they all helped each other out, and really came together and pulled through whenever times were tough. This leads to an amazingly inspiring sequence where each child recounts a individual positive time in their journey, which in turn amounts to a section where they come to realise how strong they are together:

“So our crests aren’t powered by ourselves…they’re powered by the faith we have in each other?”

Then the light inside me, is for everyone!”

“And everyone’s hopes, are my hopes!”

It goes on like that, and they reassemble themselves, ready to take on the villain. I have to say that even today, I love it. It’s just perfect. As a 10 year old, I saw that and something clicked inside of me; I knew exactly who I wanted to be. I wanted to help people, to be the good guy. 

You might say that ‘oh, that could never happen, it’s not real’ and believe me, I’m well aware that it’s a cartoon. But what I’m really interested in is the spirit of it all; the absolute faith in yourself and those around you no matter how dire the circumstances. That, I believe, is real. I won’t give up on that.

I’m not ashamed to admit that at the time of watching that again recently, I cried a little bit. It means that much to me, it really does. But that’s what heroes can do for us – inspire us to be the best that we can be. Is there a moment when you’ve felt most inspired? If so, drop me a line – I’d love to hear about it 🙂

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