I haven’t planned exactly what to write with this; as usual I’m just publishing because it’s a topic which has been on my mind recently. I officially graduated on Thursday, and it has me thinking about the true definition of success. First of all, let me say that it’s a terrific feeling to celebrate 3 years of hard work, and the culmination of all of that effort with your friends! I would recommend University to anybody; it’s obviously important because of the accrued knowledge in a chosen subject area, but what’s of further importance is the personal development and insight which you gain by being put through an entirely new situation, and meeting such a diverse range of people.
This really forms the basis of what I’ve been thinking about. What if I hadn’t graduated, does not make me unsuccessful?
No, it doesn’t.
In my opinion, you’re only unsuccessful if you don’t try. I thought of a pretty cool analogy to explain my point:
You have 2 Superheroes, each trying to save a lot of people. Both of them give everything they have but only one ‘succeeds’. Naturally you’d probably point to the one who saved everyone as being a success, but the success only relates to the task itself, not the person. In my view, each person is a success because:
a) They both had the intent to save everybody
b) Both of them tried their very best.
I think this is a very profound topic to consider because everyday we’re faced with both small and large challenges which all focus on success, but if we were able to manage our expectations of what success is then we’d be a lot happier. Of course, we’re all going to be disappointed when things don’t turn out the way we want them to, but if you can honestly say that you really devoted yourself to your goal, and had the heart and intention to try and carry it out, then that’s what counts.
A successful person to me is someone who wakes up and both aspires and strives to carry out their goals, no matter how difficult.
“Try not to become a man of success, but rather try to become a man of value.”
– Albert Einstein
This links nicely with the second part of my post. The photo which you see attached to this post is of my friend and I after the ceremony. I was speaking to her a few days before the event and I mentioned that for me, this graduation wasn’t about the subject at all, but rather the celebration of the people that I’ve met, the friends I’ve made. It’s true, because why is anything of any significance unless we have others to share it with? I won’t go through the story completely, but basically I feel that because I spent a lot of time alone as a kid, I have a real core of appreciation for those who want to call themselves my friends; I genuinely feel amazing every time anyone decides that they want to speak to me, and I’m thankful for that.
It’s just the message that I wanted to propagate really; there are many mysteries on this Earth and beyond, so many things that we don’t fully comprehend, but for me love is a constant force, an innate feeling embedded in each of us. I am, and will always be a person of success, not because of anything I achieve, but simply because I attempt with all of my heart to achieve my goals, and most importantly love, and am loved by those around me. That’s all that counts, right? 🙂
If ever you feel like you’ve messed up, then please try to remember that. If you’re reading then and you feel like you have no-one that you can count on, then reach out. I was definitely in that position once, but we all have special qualities that will be appreciated, trust me.